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How to care for aging parents



Last year, we created a new Yelp Employee Resource Group (YERG): Yelders. The members of this group say that everyone ages, and we should all embrace the experiences and knowledge we accumulate on this journey called life. The aim of this group is to host panels and workshops on various topics such as destigmatizing age, retirement, raising teens, caring for elderly parents, and much more. Needless to say, Yelpers of all ages are welcome, as it’s never too early or late to learn from one another’s experience!

This January, Yelders had their first company-wide event. They invited Dr. Janet Taylor to come speak on an important topic: How to Care for Aging Parents. Dr. Taylor talked about aspects of caring for loved ones as they get older—without losing sight of your own goals or compromising your own health. After all, caring for aging loved ones can impact your lifestyle, your mental wellness, and your finances. In fact, did you know that family caregivers in the U.S. provide $470 billion dollars in unpaid care? And family caregivers are spending, on average, nearly 20% of their income on caregiving activities (AARP, 2016).

In addition to practical tips and tricks when it comes to dealing with potentially stressful caretaking situations, Dr. Taylor reminded the audience to make sure their own psychological needs are being met. She pointed us to a TED Talk from Anna Ponder, who speaks on The Power of Forgiveness. And finally, she left us with this resource: Scrap the Big New Year’s Resolutions. Make 6 Simple Changes Instead.

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